All it Takes is Confidence
Aside from the mandatory silver half-shekel that each Jew had to
contribute towards building the Tabernacle (Mishkan), which was used to
construct its beam-supporting sockets, they were also invited donate other
types of building materials such as gold, leather, and high-quality wool
and fabric. The tribal princes—the wealthiest of the generation—had a
proposition. “You collect whatever you can,” they told Moshe, “we will
fill in the gap.” Let everyone donate what they like, and they would
supply everything else.
They were in for a surprise.
Moshe said to the entire assembly of the Children of Israel, saying, “This
is the word that Hashem has commanded, saying: ‘Take from yourselves an
offering to Hashem; everyone whose heart motivates him shall bring it as a
gift for Hashem.’” (35:4-5)
R’ Chaim Vital zt”l (Eitz Chaim) explains that Hashem told Moshe there are
two types of givers: Those who give generously without prodding, and those
who need to be coerced. Take an offering—refers to those from whom the
offering needs to be taken due to their lack of generosity. Everyone whose
heart motivates him—refers to those who give on their own.
In the end, though, no coercion was needed. Every man and woman whose
heart motivated them…brought a free-willed offering to Hashem! Despite the
princes’ generous offer, there was no ‘difference’ to make up. The only
thing left for them to bring was the Shoham Stones which rested on the
Kohen Gadol’s shoulder straps.
It was a generous offer that in the end amounted to nothing, and the
princes are criticized for it. Nesi’im, the Hebrew word for princes, is
written here deficiently, without one of its two yud’s.
Yet when we consider their offer, we might still question why they were
criticized. After all, they had no way of knowing that the tribes would
donate so generously, leaving nothing for them to give.
And their offer, by all measures, was extremely generous. Imagine you’re a
fundraiser for a yeshiva, and you approach a wealthy man, describing in
vivid detail how far behind you are in paying the teachers’ salaries, the
need for new desks, etc. “All together,” he asks, “what’s your yearly
budget?” Deducting tuition, you quote him a figure. “Go and raise as much
as you can… Make a dinner, canvass all the wealthy in the city, do a
Superdraw… and (at this point he reaches into his suit pocket and takes
out a fancy cheque book, and signs the cheque, leaving the amount blank)
whatever remains, just fill it in!” It’s every executive-director’s dream-
Lest we think the omission of a letter from their title is some small,
insignificant fact, let us recall that Ephron, who “says much and does
nothing at all” (see Bereishis/Genesis 23:16 and Rashi there) is also
stricken with a missing name-letter! Perhaps they should have given
something immediately, and not have risked being left with nothing to
give. Perhaps they should have had a little more foresight—but how does
the harsh criticism suit the seemingly minor crime?
The most powerful motivational phrase, it is said, is the simple, “I know
you can do it!” There’s nothing that makes us feel responsibility, and
take that responsibility more seriously, than the notion that others are
relying on us.
How many times in our lives do we fail to live up to our own expectations?
Have you ever made a ‘promise’ to yourself, and not followed through?
(Have you ever made a ‘promise’ to yourself and kept it?) But when we’ve
given our word to someone else, it seems to galvanize us in a way that
personal decisions just can’t. Who can’t recall a time when they’ve
trekked through snow, ice, and the most frigid winds to be at a friends
kiddush, “Because I know they’re expecting me!”
This little tidbit, by the way, is a great tool in the hands of the wise
parent and master educator. When we nudge and belittle our charges, we
make them feel incapable (and foolish). “Remember—take your fingers away
from the socket before you plug in the iron!” And of course the more
foolish we make them feel, the more foolish they are likely to act.
On the other hand, when we show them we believe in them, and we have no
qualms about entrusting them with even daunting responsibility, they ‘rise
to the task,’ and function at a level of responsibility far beyond what we
might of expected (and in truth, beyond what they themselves thought they
were capable of).
Research has shown that in companies where the employees are given
responsibility for some level of decision-making (within their position),
they tend to contribute at a level far greater than employees who are
watched like hawks by their superiors. Show a person you have confidence
in them, and they will do their best to prove you right. Show someone you
have no confidence in them—and they’ll prove you right too!
Perhaps this, says the Mayan Ha-shavua, was the fault of the princes. “Let
the people bring their donations first—and whatever they don’t come up
with, we will.” Their promise contains an implicit lack of confidence in
the members of their tribes. Why would they assume that the people, having
been told by Moshe the great importance the Almighty placed on the
building of the Mishkan—that the Holy One, Blessed is He, wishes to dwell
among us, as it were—how could they even entertain the thought that the
people would come up short?
As leaders of their tribes, there should have been no doubt in their minds
that their charges would never fall short when dealing with such a
monumental task. And as leaders, this confidence should have been clear to
everyone. Instead, their promise to Moshe casts doubts on everyone else’s
spirit of generosity—an unacceptable flaw in the message they communicate
to the people they’re supposed to be leading and motivating.
This is why, he explains, the deficient letter is not missing from their
personal names, but rather from the word nesi’im—princes or leaders. It
was a fault in their leadership to express doubt in the abilities of their
charges, and it is in the word that identifies them as leaders that the
deficiency is found.
Many times in our prayers we recite verses that give voice to our great
trust in Hashem to care for us, satisfy our needs, etc. “Praiseworthy is
the man who puts his trust in Hashem—Hashem will be a source of strength
to him.” “Hashem desires those who fear Him—those who await His kindness.”
Aside from strengthening our faith, these verses serve another purpose.
Hashem, so to speak, is Avinu She-bashamayim, our Father in Heaven. When
we think, speak, and act as if we can do things on our own and ‘take care
of ourselves,’ Hashem, to the extent we can express it, treats us in a
like manner. He allows us to ‘take care of things,’ and suffer the
consequences of human short-sightedness and error.
But when we say to Hashem, “We have no one to rely on but You—our Father
in Heaven,” (and we mean it), Hashem responds by giving us an extra
measure of Siyata di-Shemaya (Heavenly assistance). Not to say that, G-d
forbid, Hashem needs the ‘motivation’ of knowing we rely in Him and
believe in Him, but when our Father sees that we place all our hopes,
aspirations, and lives in His hands, His love for us is aroused, and He
treats us with the love and care of a father to his son.
Have a good Shabbos.
Text Copyright © 2006 by Rabbi Eliyahu Hoffmann and Torah.org